Thursday, June 29, 2017
It's been quite a while since I've written. I walked into a dream and spent a lot of time bringing it into form. The last time I wrote, I talked about a vision I had: to hold my poetry book in my hands. It went to the publisher on Friday, just before the new moon -- a time to end one thing before beginning something new. I also wrote about how that vision included gathering people together for workshops in beautiful places. On Saturday, I led the first of these workshops in a beautiful old house in the rolling hills near New Hope, Pennsylvania. It was just after the new moon, a time of energetic rebirth and the beginning of a new cycle. Gardens, fruit trees, a pond, a beautiful and bountiful table, and a great group of women gathered for the first offering of 13 Moons: Tracking the Wild Mare.
This is the beautiful morning pages book that my daughter made for me and gave me at Christmas. It is amazing, and I thought I'd save it for something special. And then I decided that my life as it is, right now, is the special gift I have, so here it is -- open and opening to whatever new is coming. It's a good day to begin this book because I'm seeing today as a new beginning. It's the last day of new moon week -- tomorrow is the first quarter. ( Do something!) So here it is. I'm feeling drawn to doing, gently, today. I signed up for an evening yoga class. I have a list I made yesterday. I drew out the weeks before I leave for California, five of them. There's some great time here to make some changes I'd like to make. This book feels so rich and amazing. I love the size and I'm not worrying that it won't fit on my bookshelf. What beautiful pages to write upon. Yes. It feels rich. And it's indeed an auspicious time, just days before the Equinox. So many beginnings. I'm seeing some clarity around a plan coming together. And it's beautiful. There is so much wonderful potential swirling all around -- and I feel free now to take my finger and touch it. I can see a desire building to reach in and get my hands dirty, first one and then the other. And to go in, all the way up to my elbows, then to my shoulders -- then just to fall, or dive, right in, fall in and be completely swallowed by it!
Potential is a beautiful thing. It's all about creating space so something can happen. Sometimes we carry so much clutter in our thoughts, our feelings, our living space that there's no space to see possibility, no time to take time to dream and to plan, to manifest. There have been times in the last few years when I felt like I'd lost my center and had no direction, but I just kept trusting where I thought life was leading me. I was listening deeply for what was emerging, rather than trying to impose something on myself. And, suddenly, as if a mist dispelled, things became clear and I realized I was just a few small actions away from harvesting a crop that's been long in the field.
Sometimes the growing season is long.
Wednesday, November 26, 2014
I have been gestating.
My last blog post, which was my New Year's post, really got under my skin. I began to think about my own dreams. And what I would like to bring more fully to birth in the world. And so I went deep inside and visited my dreamscape. I found so many things there, but mainly I found that a dream I began to dream three years ago was still scratching at the walls of my consciousness, trying to get my attention.
There were a few fears I had to overcome to begin to bring this dream to birth. And so I spent some time with those fears and decided that I needed to take things one step at a time.
First, I had to get really clear about my dream. I saw the poetry collection I've been working on for the last three years as a book in my hands and I saw the workshop that emerged out of writing the poetry being offered in beautiful places to as wide an audience as possible.
A book and a widely-shared workshop. It felt like a huge undertaking.
They did not publish my work, but the feedback I received was truly valuable. It was worth every moment spent writing, editing, curating, and waiting.
Among the comments were, "The speaker's transformation...is one that requires the reader to trust the poet. And we do. Your voice is clear and strong, speaking often without artifice or guile."
And, "I was struck by the cadence of the words, the rhythm holding the poems together. It is at times subtle, but the music is there...When the cadence and metaphor worked together, as in 'Unbound,' I'm willing to take leaps with you, the poet."
I was given some excellent criticism about ways to improve the collection, trimming it to "cast into sharp relief your subject." This, and other comments, feels something like a treasure map as I continue to work with the manuscript.
The dream began to shape itself into a goal and the goal into objectives. I am almost ready to launch my project - a book and a widely-shared workshop. There have been many steps in between, and so this gestation has been both deep, inner work and exhausting, exhilarating outer action.
I turned my dream into a goal and my goal is now taking form.
I've been thinking about the steps I outlined in my New Year's post, and one of them emerges as the most powerful ~
Get comfortable with the "you" you need to be in order to live this dream.
For me, this has been some of the hardest work these many months. It has required me to unearth some old stories that I've needed to heal and transform in order to see myself alive and present in the dream, and to make it happen.
I am passionate about the healing power of story. About unearthing our stories like archaeologists painstakingly working a tel and the anthropologists who work with them to study the artifacts and create meaning around them.
And so, Anthropology for the Soul: Unearthing Story for Healing, Growth, and Transformation, the workshop, has emerged out of my work and expresses a process to help reveal what is emerging and expressing itself through one's life stories. This empowering work helps people to heal and transform, unleashing their creative genius.
The kind of genius that has enabled the birth of Claws of Uthurunku, the poetry collection that emerged as I unearthed my own story, a healing story. Very shortly, I am hoping to post a photo of me, holding the book in my hands. For now, I hold a manuscript in my hands and a dream is coming into manifest form.
“There you are”
He points to one such
Boundary of Light
I squeeze out dreams
Like threads of light
Friday, January 31, 2014
I was just curious...
If there was something else...
Sometimes just naming it
Helps you to be able to let it go
And open to what is to come
It's such a simple idea - turn your dream into your goal. But how many of us actually do this? Don't we usually relegate dreams to the realm of fantasy and soldier through with something more realistic? As I've been thinking about the Lunar New Year, I've been thinking about dreams. The things we long for. What we'd do if there were no limits. The things we don't usually think we can achieve and so they sit somewhere in our consciousness and become something we turn to when what we actually are manifesting is disappointing.
But what might happen if we take our dreams and turn them into goals? Well, our dreams are likely to come true. I think about Gabby Douglas, the U.S. Olympian, to whom this quote is usually attributed. I don't know if she came up with this herself or if she is quoting someone else. It doesn't really matter. What does matter is that this young woman embraced this whole-heartedly and, in doing so, won gold medals in both the individual all-around and team competitions in the 2012 Summer Olympics.
What do you dream? A new moon is a great time to get clear around this and begin to plant the seeds that will enable you to manifest your dream. Plant them now. Turn your dream into your goal. Write it down and post it where you can see it every day. Begin to live as if it is already your reality. Get comfortable with the "you" you need to be in order to live this dream. Start to jot down some action steps that you can take that will bring you closer.
At the first quarter moon, select one action step and do it. Each step you take brings you closer.
At the full moon, notice what is manifesting as a result of taking a step closer to your goal.
At the third quarter moon, spend some time reflecting on how far you have come, who you have become, and what might be a good next step. At the next new moon, plant the seeds that will enable you to move farther along in the process and continue to take the steps that will allow you to move closer and closer to living your dream.
This process can be used with small and large life goals. There are no limits except for those we place on ourselves. These usually come in the form of limiting beliefs that rob us of our confidence and hold us back. Turn the limiting beliefs around and notice how you have transformed as your thinking begins to change. Don't put pressure on yourself. Hold all of this lightly and take small steps that build on each other. What had once been nebulous will begin to take form.
Tuesday, December 31, 2013
By the time they were teenagers, the hug jar and the chore jar were collecting dust on a shelf in the family room. But we started a new jar -- the fortune jar. Every time we got Chinese food and opened our fortune cookies together, we would share the fortune, laugh a lot, and invariably those little slips of paper would end up on the floor, or in pockets. I would find them on laundry day and put them, and the assorted toys and coins, in a dish near the washer. One day I noticed an abundance of fortunes and put an extra Ball jar to use. This one was not decorated, but the rising level of fortunes felt like its own kind of art. Eventually, fortunes were left on the table and added to the jar bypassing pockets and floor. Sometimes I'd find the odd fortune here or there and add it to the jar.
And occasionally someone would walk by and fish one out when a bit of fortune was needed. This jar did not provide a regular ritual, but one that could be called on when needed.
Today when I was online, I found a picture of something that sang to me -- a new jar, a new ritual for a new year. Get yourself a jar and starting January 1st, write good things that happen to you on little pieces of paper: surprise gifts, accomplished goals, the beauty of nature, "LOL" moments, memories worth saving, daily blessings. Whatever feels good. Put it someplace where you'll see it every day. Keep paper and some Flairs near the jar so you always have your tools nearby. Be artful. Then, on December 31st, open the jar and read all the amazing things that happened to you in the year.
Its so easy to forget. The amazing things. The blessings. Moments of joy and wonder. We usually focus on the challenges, the stress, the things that don't feel so good, what's going wrong. My guess is a jar like this could change your life. And mine.
The hug jar sits on a bookshelf in my living room. The beautiful decorations my daughter drew when she was six have faded from the paper but not from my memory. You can no longer read "Hug Jar" on it. But I will always know what it is. I opened it tonight and drew a faded slip of paper -- Butterfly Kiss. It is written in my daughter's little girl handwriting and has a tiny butterfly illustration. All the other hugs were written by me. The jar hasn't been opened in ten years. I could almost hear a whisper of children's laughter. I think I'll take it with me when I get together with the kids tomorrow on New Year's day to celebrate Christmas. I smile when I think about it and realize it is the 20th Anniversary of the hug jar. The chore jar came later.
When I moved out of my house last year I gave away all my Ball jars. Too bad. Wouldn't it be great to give a New Year's jar to each of the kids for Christmas. Well, I'll figure something out. You knew I would.
Monday, September 30, 2013
Saturday, August 31, 2013
Wednesday, July 31, 2013
I'd told myself I was going to work -- do some writing. Plan a workshop series I'm offering this fall. Stuff like that. But what I really needed was to rest my mind. Enjoy some peace and a few hours of Sabbath.
I had a bag -- filled with work -- sitting on the chair next to me. And there the two of us sat for several hours... just like that... enjoying the breezes, the river running by, and the quiet buzz of others' conversation in the background.
After I'd been there a few hours, the most extraordinary thing happened. Actually, it was quite ordinary -- but as we all know, Life often takes what is ordinary and makes it extraordinary.
The relative calm and quiet was shattered by the insistent cries of a baby sparrow.
This baby was fledging and his parents were there, teaching him how to feed himself. How to eat beyond the nest. The parents were hopping around on the ground with the fledgling, picking up food and putting it into the baby's mouth, and all the while, the baby was crying out -- over and over, as if in a panic. This went on for quite some time. And then the parents stepped back as the baby picked something up off the ground, but as soon as he had it in his beak, it was as if he didn't know what to do with it and dropped it back on the ground.
You can imagine the angry, frustrated cries then -- they were loud and insistent and ongoing and persistent, and could not be ignored. They pulled at even the human heart.
The parents moved back in and once again picked the food up off the ground and put it in the fledgling's mouth. It seemed to me they were so patient and I was fascinated as I watched this exchange, which seemed to have a pattern of sorts -- leading, teaching, feeding, calming chirps meeting the panicked cries of the youngster.
On and on this went, until it became suddenly quiet.
I looked around and noticed that the three of them had flown off.
And I realized I was relaxed and laughing. Perhaps even laughing at myself.
It was one of Life's lovely and loving teaching moments.
When we realize that we need to be patient with ourselves, slow down, sink into the heart and get out of the head. And just breathe.
Some time later a soft breeze filled the air and I looked up and saw the fledgling sparrow sitting atop a fence over the courtyard where he'd previously been with his parents. They were down on the ground eating. He was looking up -- surveying the trees and the skies beyond. He seemed almost like a different bird -- there was a quiet confidence about him.
It was as if he was able to relax into this new phase in his life. Or at least to trust that when he needed it, help would be there.